这周我们在上课的时候遇到了一个话题：你认为为饮酒和吸烟等事情设定年龄限制只会让青少年更想这样做吗？
对于这个问题，我认为我们应该辩证的来看待它。这些限制确实约束了一部分人，但同时也让一部分人产生了更多的兴趣。我们制定这些约束会让孩子知道这么做是不对的，但这并不代表他们就会完全遵守纪律。
与此同时我们还应该考虑不同的时代，比如：对于当今社会来说，我很赞同这些限制会让青少年更想这样做。因为当今社会，信仰神与上帝的人越来越少，现在很多父母都不再信神，那么他们的孩子当然也不会相信。没有了信仰的制约，人性就会无限放大。父母没有以身作则，即便他们教育他们的孩子不能吸烟或喝酒，但是孩子也只会有更多的质疑：你们都没有做到，凭什么要求我做到？除此之外，孩子接受到的教育也决定了他们会怎么做。其实如果孩子接受了真正良好的教育，他们甚至都不会有这种“叛逆”的想法或行为。在我来叔叔这里之前，我曾在一所国际学校就读。那里的学生基本都是家里很富有的，他们几乎可以想干什么就干什么，想买什么就买什么，他们会互相攀比衣服、鞋子、手机等等物品。最开始我并不太理解他们的行为，但时间长了，我发现我开始也变得像他们一样在意衣服的品牌、物品的价格等等。所以我想说的是，在一个大环境中，即便一个好孩子也会很快的变坏，因为这些我们不应该做的事都是符合人性的，这些事情可以满足人的各种欲望，所以当我们在做一个好孩子的时候就是在战胜这些不好的人性。在那个学校里，很多小学生都会抽烟喝酒。他们并不是一开始都会的，但是他们会攀比，他们会觉得不遵守规则很“酷”，它可以成为一种炫耀的资本。对于再大的孩子就是早恋等等行为。这些都是他们炫耀的资本，那些不会抽烟、喝酒或者没有早恋的孩子会被他们看不起，所以那些孩子也会被迫抽烟、喝酒、早恋，最后就会成为习惯。
We ran into a topic this week in class: do you think putting age limits on things like drinking and smoking just makes teens more likely to want to do it?
Regarding this question, I think we should look at it dialectically. These restrictions do restrict some people, but at the same time, they also make some people more interested. We set these constraints to let children know that it is wrong to do so, but this does not mean that they will fully abide by the discipline.
At the same time we should also think about different eras, like: For today's society, I agree that these restrictions make teenagers more willing to do this. Because in today's society, there are fewer and fewer people who believe in God and God, and now many parents no longer believe in God, so of course their children will not believe in God either. Without the restriction of belief, human nature will be infinitely magnified. Parents have not set an example, even if they teach their children not to smoke or drink, but the children will only have more doubts: You have not done it, why ask me to do it? In addition, the education children receive also determines what they will do. In fact, if children have received a really good education, they will not even have such "rebellious" thoughts or behaviors. Before I came to uncle, I attended an international school. The students there are basically from very wealthy families. They can do whatever they want and buy whatever they want. They will compare clothes, shoes, mobile phones and other items with each other. At first I didn't quite understand their behavior, but after a long time, I found that I began to care about the brand of clothes, the price of items, etc. like them. So what I want to say is that in a big environment, even a good child will quickly turn bad, because these things we should not do are in line with human nature, and these things can satisfy people's various desires, so When we are being a good child, we are overcoming these bad human natures. In that school, many pupils would smoke and drink. They don't know it at first, but they will compare, they will think it is "cool" not to follow the rules, and it can be a kind of bragging rights. For older children, it is puppy love and other behaviors. These are their capital to show off. Children who don't know how to smoke, drink or have puppy love will be looked down upon by them, so those children will also be forced to smoke, drink, and have puppy love, and eventually they will become habits.
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